Loving dominion for the Self

Applying "Loving Dominion" to Yourself

This podcast emphasizes applying the concept of "loving dominion"—leading from a place of love, especially through difficulties—to oneself. It offers a 10-point checklist for self-leadership and personal growth.

1. Be Curious

Cultivate genuine curiosity about your feelings, especially when encountering tension, heaviness, or stagnation. Ask yourself, "How are things going?" or "Why do I feel this way?" This self-inquiry helps build harmony and trust in your journey.

2. Create a Safe, Non-Judgmental Space

Pair curiosity with active listening to your intuition. Create a safe, non-judgmental space for your emotions, whether they are anger, grief, wonder, or worry. Your emotions should feel consistently and persistently safe within your body.

3. Be Consistent and Persistent

Develop consistency and persistence in keeping promises to yourself. This practice, like daily rituals (e.g., a warm drink in the morning), builds reliability and self-trust, helping you stay present with yourself.

4. Practice Vulnerability

Learn to be vulnerable with yourself by writing down struggles and breakthroughs. This doesn't mean sharing everything publicly, but rather acknowledging your inner world. Self-vulnerability is a superpower that leads to greater alignment.

5. Cultivate Empathy and Validation

Show yourself empathy and validation, recognizing the complexity of life and acknowledging your efforts. This can be as simple as validating that a task was hard or a choice was worth it. Internal validation fosters subconscious alignment and truth in your decisions.

6. Establish Confidentiality and Boundaries

Implement confidentiality and boundaries for your personal space and growth. This means deciding what you share with others and what remains private. Boundaries aren't just about keeping things out; they're about preserving your self-worth and ensuring your cup is filled.

7. Engage Interactively with Yourself

Make time for interactive engagement with your thoughts, dreams, past, and vision. This involves actively processing your inner world, often through practices like journaling or therapy, which allow you to "talk to yourself and hear it back."

8. Value Educational Growth and Empowerment

Continuously seek educational value and empowerment in what you learn. The knowledge you gain should be aligned with your harmony and fill you with awe, leading to better, faster, and more informed decisions. This internal work strengthens your self-trust.

9. Communicate Authentically

Practice authentic communication with all parts of yourself, including your mind and body. This involves setting clear intentions, understanding your limitations, and delivering messages of ease and availability of energy. It's a learned behavior of unpacking and understanding yourself.

10. Celebrate Your Milestones

Celebrate your successes, no matter how small. Acknowledge milestones to combat "success amnesia" and build trust in your relationship with your own mind. Encouraging your internal "encourager" validates your progress and makes future challenges feel more manageable.